Picture this, you’ve met a girl and you think, “Hey, she might be the one” you think she is friendly and you think she’s kinda interested in you. You started a good friendship with her, after a while you started to put the moves on her. However, you think it’s going south so now you think she’s not interested in you.
And of course, we don’t want you to be stuck in the friendzone so I will tell you how too. here are 11 clear signs that a girl isn’t really into you:
11. “Touch Barrier”
One of the main things a guy should look for to see if a girl is comfortable with him is to see if she is breaking the “touch barrier.” Because one of the ways a girl shows she likes you and likes being close to you is to invitingly touch you on places like your knee, your shoulder, or your arm.
So if a girl you’re talking to is holding back from any and all physical contact, That might be a big hint that she doesn’t see you as more than a friend.
You can actually test this out. because not all girls are touchy. You can initiate and break the touch barrier. You can slightly break the barrier, just be cool with it.
10. You’re not a priority
If you’re waiting a whole 24 hours to hear back from a girl you texted, chances are that responding to you is, unfortunately, you might not be her priority. Now, it’s true that this might not necessarily mean she doesn’t like you. But if she’s really thinking about you,
She’ll at least make an effort to let you know she’s busy.
If you want to learn how to avoid getting ghosted. You should read our guide on why you’re ghosted after the first date.
9. Her body language is telling you she’s on guard
A woman’s body language can say a lot. It can tell you that she wants you to be closer, or it can tell you that she wishes you would just go away. And because a woman may not always come out and say ‘I’m sorry, I’m just not into you’, Looking at what her body language is saying can be an incredibly powerful trick.
So, what are some of the body language signs that a girl would rather be somewhere else? Look for the classics:
- Folded arms
- Torso not pointing towards you
- hiding her hands,
- pointing her feet towards anywhere else than towards you.
- Lack of eye contact
Body language is hard to fake because we do it subconsciously, however, let me tell you that there are ways to turn a NO into a YES! and we have proven that time and time again.
8. You do all the work
She could tell you she’s busy, or she lets you do all the work. If it looks like she’s probably always hard to get. It’s another sign that she’s not just playing hard to get, she doesn’t want to be “get” and often means she doesn’t really care about your time because if you think about it if she were as eager to see you as you were to see her, She’d probably do whatever it takes to hang out with you.
But then again, there are cases that she’s just not vocal or showy about her feelings. I’ve had trouble with girls like this when I was traveling to Asia because culture plays a huge role in someone else’s personality and it’s still expected for the guy to make the work.
7. She flakes on plans at the last minute
While it’s obvious that things can change unexpectedly, one of the worst ways it might become clear that a girl isn’t feeling you is if she bails on you and your plans at the last minute. And what’s worst is if she didn’t tell you that she won’t go on your date.
That being said: If she cancels but wants to reschedule, Don’t assume she does not like you. Offer to reschedule, and if she says she’s busy on that certain date don’t worry about it, move on and see if she will text you to reschedule.
6. She’s not offering anything to the conversation
Of course, First dates can be awkward, or some girls may be shyer than others, but just like you might try to keep a conversation going with a girl you like, a girl who likes you, will try to do the same, no matter how awkward it gets.
This means that if she is not making any effort to keep the conversation moving, It might be because she doesn’t really care if the conversation goes anywhere you can try to lead the conversation and keep on talking but you have to check and if you think you are doing all the work, then you might actually have to think about if it’s worth it.
If you’re dating someone already and you’re wondering how long do you have to date before becoming exclusive, check out our guide!
5. She checks her phone often
Everyone now is always on their phones if they’re bored. While a certain amount of attention to her phone can be normal, eagerly checking every notification that pops up is a classic sign that your conversation isn’t really doing it for her.
And that’s because if a girl is really having fun talking or flirting with you, she’ll be more attracted to the vibes you’re putting out than the vibrations coming from her phone.
4. Negative eye contact
Eye contact is a very powerful tool when dating or getting to know someone. while some girls may playfully avoid eye contact, If a girl knows you’re there, but doesn’t seem to want to look at you, it might be a strong signal that she’s not interested in you or you’re creeping her out.
Shy girls who are interested in you might give you eye contact if you’re talking and girls who are really into you will establish this quickly to the conversation. Take a good look at her eyes, if it dilates then you might hit the jackpot!
3. Faking Her Smile
Want to know if a girl is really happy to see you when she smiles? Pay close attention to the small wrinkles at the corner of her eyes are called “crows feet.” if you can’t see it she’s probably not into you or at least her smile is not genuine, she might just be polite because she’s genuinely excited to see you.
2. She Just Sounds Bored
There’s a scientific study that if a girl has a high pitched voice around you, there’s a chance that they like you, it’s a proven study, However, If you’re talking to a girl and her responses seem less than enthusiastic it might be the first sign that you’re losing your chance to be something more with her. See, when a girl is really into you, you can hear and feel it in her voice in two main ways:
- She’ll give you a lot more than quick, short answers. sometimes she will also ask you dorky questions.
- Her excitement may also cause her to subconsciously speak both louder and faster.
1. She Tells You She’s Has A Boyfriend
No, this doesn’t she’s not just playing hard-to-get… What it means is:
- she has a boyfriend, or
- She’s just not interested.
Gentlemen, this is the ultimate indicator that a girl is not interested in you. So whether it’s true or not, if a girl has to tell you she’s got a boyfriend. That should be a pretty clear line in the sand that tells you don’t have a chance.
The biggest thing you can do to stay clear of the friendzone. A dead-end for getting the girl.
What to do if she doesn’t like you?
If she doesn’t like you, then you have 2 options, one is to improve yourself and make yourself better, or stay out of the friendzone. And staying out of the friendzone is quite easy if you get the hang of it, here’s something that you can do to avoid the friendzone.
- don’t wait too long to make your move.
- make your intentions with her as painfully clear as possible.
Want a couple of easy ways to do both? If a few sincere compliments in the first conversation don’t make it obvious, All you’ve got to do is ask her if she wants to go out sometime. and it’s always a deal-breaker.
What I can suggest is, if you think you’re getting played with on-off behavior of her, or you cannot really say if she’s not into you, ask her out, the earlier you know she likes you, the earlier you move on if she’s not. Always remember that dating is always 50% success and 50% failure so don’t be afraid.